Things that you have learn form your first relationship – When it comes to your first relationship, everything in brand new and intensified. When you are in a relationship you may not focus on how much learning is going on, but when it is over you must/can look back and realize every bit of it was a lesson for/in life and love.
Your first relationship defines you in many ways, gives you a better idea of what you want from yourself and most importantly it teaches us the feelings of pangs of heartache for the first time. But of all the learned things that come with your first relationship, there are some you should take to heart more than others. Some things are meant to be forgotten, while others are still something in you, for your future relationships.
Here are those Things that you have learn form your first relationship
Take it slow
You shouldn’t be in a race with your friends and yourself because relationship isn’t a race to win or reach some imaginary line that doesn’t even exist. Taking it slow actually means take your time to understand someone, giving your relationship a chance to reach a success rate. Going fast in your relationship will make you miss those little things that makes the best part of the relationship.
Always be yourself
The most important thing to do when you are in a relationship because When you’re out there searching for “the one,” you can easily lose yourself and settle for something that’s just not the right fit. You’ll try to put the pieces of the puzzle together, and inevitably realize that you’re living a life that doesn’t feel like yours. The truth is originality is what matters and makes you beautiful inside out. I have learned that people will be attracted towards the girl who is always being herself, our version of Cinderella’s glass slipper is coming, so don’t worry about making the wrong shoes fit in the meantime. Just go with the flow.
The life isn’t a fairy tale
We always believe that life is a fairy tale when we fall in love for the first time,but that is not true, life is not the carbon copy of your favourite tale. Unlike movies couples don’t live ever after, every relationship requires hard work, time and loyalty. Falling in love may be/is spontaneous but sticking to it may be not. As princes turn into frogs, you learn to embrace life and hope for the best.
Self-respect has a say
Loving oneself is difficult indeed its very essential and healthy. When we are in our first relationship, we often forget our self-respect is also important it makes us what we are. If we aren’t able to stand up for ourselves, how do you suppose you can stand up for other human being and vice-versa.
Someone’s not doing a favour by liking you
Most importantly don’t be too happy that someone has approached you first, they are liking you. Learn to wait and what you think or feel about them. Give yourself sometime then take a move.
Every relationship doesn’t last forever
We always tend to believe that our first love is the last love, unlike all happy ending fairy tales and movies we too have a happy ending. But that isn’t true, it doesn’t last forever.
Wait until you have came down to air your grievances
Calm down, gather your thoughts and feelings, and then sit down and discuss accordingly and maturely. In the heat of the moment, you’re bound to say something you may regret later. You can’t unrig a bell. It’s far easier to walk away and come back down the line, than it is to do damage control after the fact.
Don’t share your personal space too much
Your first relationship challenges what it means to make time for your partner and time for yourself. From a psychological standpoint, alone time is absolutely necessary in making your relationship healthy, but it’s in that first relationship that you learn what it means to create a balance that works for both of you. It’s something that you can never lose.
Don’t forget your friends
One of the major things I learnt with your first relationship, is that you can never, ever put your friends second to your partner. Although it may seem like your partner is the whole damn world, the reality is that when shit falls apart, you need your friends there to help you get everything in order again. Abandoning them for your partner is, literally, the worst idea in the world. Sometimes those friends don’t come back to you after they’ve been tossed aside and it’s a loss you don’t want to have to bear.
Show your vulnerable side as well
When you’re stressed out, or just need a shoulder to cry on, it’s oddly beautiful to be able to run to your significant other. They should be your unwavering support system, and the one person you can trust when everything is feeling really crummy. Relationships come with a lot of fun and flirting, but sometimes you really just need a hug and inspirational pep talk.
Teaches how to handle your emotions wisely
Did you remember the first major fight in your first major relationship? Felt like world crashing down, didn’t it? It is the silver lining is that these sorts of emotional outbursts pave the way for a better control over your emotions in the future. You learn acceptance along the way, and you emerge stronger than you ever thought you were.
Love is bitter and sweet. My first relationship wasn’t isn’t solely about lessons, but it provides the sort of foundation for all relationships to come. It does a rapturous feeling and probably teaches you how to handle a whole boatload of emotions that you’ve never experienced before, but will be experiencing for the rest of your life. Share your views down in the comment section the things you have learn from your first relationship.
I would like to end with few lines:
“जिक्र तेरा हर लफ्ज़ में करूंगा…..
फ़िक्र ना कर तेरा नाम नहीं लूंगा”